Has it ever occurred to you that whether or
not you are offended by something I say or write is entirely dependent on what
you think of me, not on what I actually said or wrote?
If your best friend says to you “F@*k off,
you stupid wa#$er”, the chances are you will interpret it as banter and
laugh. If a stranger said it you’d be
annoyed.
The current US Presidential campaign is a case
in point. Both sides keep throwing out
‘information’ about their opponent that is designed to make the opponent seem
unelectable, but the only people who actually find it so are those who weren’t
going to vote for the opponent anyway. The
Trump Campaign could accuse Hilary of murdering babies (for all I know, they
already have) and the only people impressed would be the existing Trump
supporters. How people take what they
hear is entirely dependent on what they believed about the speaker before they
heard it.
This is particularly true on Facebook. You are quite possibly ‘friends’ with people
who are not really your friend. If
somebody you like makes a dubious post you are less likely to hit back with a
damning riposte than if it’s someone with whom you actually have a positive
relationship. This perhaps explains why
there is so much anger in Facebook!
So next time you hear or read something and
find yourself feeling offended, don’t focus on what was actually said or
written – think instead about the person saying or writing it. Why don’t you like that person? Have they done something in the past to hurt
you, or someone close to you? Or is it
just that you don’t really know them at all?
Consider this before you leap to your keyboard or open your mouth and
maybe you will decide that it isn’t worth the effort of hitting back against
someone who isn’t worth the investment or your time. Then we can all save ourselves a lot of
anger.
Maybe I shall try to follow my own advice,
here!